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Thanksgiving Success

This morning started off with a literal bang. As we lined up in front of Baum Opera House in Miamisville, Miamisburg, some Miami-something near Dayton, OH, we saw people in various costumes preparing to run the same 5 miles we were going to run. There was a banana, a gorilla, a guy wearing swim flippers, a turkey, and several sets of pilgrims and Indians. Then came the bang and we were off.

Bec finished shortly after I did with a pace of 14.16 minutes per mile, and I finished with a pace of 13.04 minutes per mile. Susan, of course, did much better than we did, but we all had an absolute blast. There is no better way to begin a day like Thanksgiving than with a nice run. We got pretty sweet shirts out of the deal as well. And, none of us were overrun by any of the walkers who started ahead of the runners.

I think I have several pet peeves at races:

  1. Start in your appropriate corral. If you are walking, start in the back.
  2. If you are going to farmer blow or hocker, make sure no one is in the line of fire.
  3. Say excuse me if you cut closely between two people.
  4. Don’t wear headphones that are turned up so loud you can’t hear those around or have to yell quite loudly because you can’t hear yourself talk.
  5. If you pass someone, keep running the same speed you were when you passed them. Don’t run around someone then come to a dead stop right in front of them, particularly if that someone you pass is a big girl. It takes a lot to stop this much weight. Think tanker truck trying to stop on the Interstate.
  6. Don’t take more than your fair share of food at the end of the race.
  7. If you are on a course that doubles back on itself, let the elite runners have their side of the road. It’s rude to slow down the fast people, just like it is rude to walk six abreast across the slow side of the road.

I think that is all the complaining I have room for here. I suppose I am not really complaining as much as I am stating the obvious. Just use what little manners we still have as Americans and apply them to the race. You can do it! I know you can!

Tomorrow I get to spend the day with my family and my friend Amy. I am excited for both prospects. My mom is coming to my house around 930 or so and my brother is meeting us at 11. We are going to lunch either at the Thai restaurant or Amazing Joe’s. I have never been to the latter, but I do love the former. We will see which one is open and not ridiculously crowded. Either way it sounds like fun.

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Today I am thankful for the ability to move my body 5 miles with no pain or discomfort.

Exercise: ran 5 miles

Food: banana, juice, strawberry milk, sugar cream pie, carrots and tostitos with dip, stuffing, spinach casserole, salad, a roll, mashed potatoes, mint moon pie, black cherry soda

Tomorrow: GET BACK ON THE WAGON WITH THE FOOD!!!!! Too much sugar!

Star Trek. Running.

I woke up this morning and realized that I didn’t have to do anything today that I didn’t want to do.

I started out by running five miles. Since I have been so busy lately, I have been slacking with running, as you can tell by looking at the exercise I list at the bottom of each day’s post. Today, I made up for it. The run felt so good, even when it hurt. My lungs burned with the too cool air, and my legs ached with stiffness, but I finished the run. Sometimes I forget how good it feels just to accomplish something like that. Maybe this is why I don’t mind coming in last at races. I just want to finish.

Tonight, I watched the new Star Trek, and I thought it was pretty good. I don’t really like Star Trek, the movies or the series. I did love Deep Space Nine when it was on, but the rest of them seemed silly. I think this is because my mom used to watch the old series whenever it was on. I remember the only one I liked was “The Trouble with Tribbles,” and I only liked it because the Tribbles were so stinking cute. I wanted one for a pet, I think.

I leaned more toward Space:1999. I wanted to be Mia, so I could shape-shift into whatever animal I wanted to be. Right now I want to change into a koala bear. Then I could lounge around, eat, and sleep. Or maybe I could be a tiger, so I could run really fast and have a cool orange and black striped coat. I am not Mia, though, so I will just remain solely human and move slowly like a sloth, but I will keep moving.

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Food: oatmeal, chocolate milk, frozen burrito thing, black bean burger with lettuce, tomato, pickle, thousand island, broccoli salad, a few tator tots, strawberries with whipped cream

Exercise: walked the dogs two miles, ran five miles, rode bike from RB to home

Red Robin…Hmmm.

A couple of friends and I went to Red Robin last night. Never go out to dinner with two people who are better looking than you are. While one of my friends, who is sort of supermodel hot, was offered multiple refills of sweet tea, though she already had a full glass, I sat with a completely empty glass of water. Apparently, hot equals refills. We decided about half-way through the meal that we were on candid camera or something. It had to be true because our service sucked. The waiter—not the manager who slobbered all over Tara—brought our checks in the middle of our meal, threw the little folder containing said checks onto the end of our table in his rush to get to the door to greet some other customers, swapped out our sugar caddy while we were still eating, and only sparingly attended our table. At least the conversation was good. I love hanging out with people who are as crazy as I am. Possibly they are crazier.print_red_robin_01The night was made right when we walked across the street to the weird coffee shop, Cuppy’s Coffee, to have some after dinner coffee and gelato. I asked the strange little Radiohead shirt-wearing barista for a decaf Americano and some peanut butter cup gelato. At least she got half of it right. I haven’t been drinking caffeinated beverages for quite some time, so I double-checked to make sure my Americano was decaf. I used to be a barista, so I know how accustomed you get to pulling regular shots. “Yes,” she said, but she didn’t look me in the eye. When my heart rate sky rocketed,  I discovered that my Americano was not decaf. I had been duped and then lied to. The gelato, however, was amazing, and boosted me into ecstasy with the soft squish of whole miniature peanut butter cups. Yum.

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Exercise: walked the dogs 1.4 miles, ran 2.5 miles

Food: banana, Clif bar, apple, Red Robin Burnin’ Love Burger and steak fries, 6 onion rings, gelato

People Who Make the World Right

I don’t often think of the way that certain people make life bearable and, in fact, even enjoyable. I was reminded today of three people who not only do their jobs, but who do them well. Above and beyond the requirements of their jobs. All three happen to work in the graduate office, or whatever they are calling it these days, at the Ball. Sometimes it is important to notice when people make others’ lives easier.compassionA couple of weeks ago when I was having such a bad spot, the first person to notice my funk was Shawna, our administrative assistant. She didn’t just notice that I was especially flustered or sad; she asked me if I was doing okay. She actually was concerned about my well-being, which is a rare quality to find in another individual, particularly someone who works as an administrative assistant at BSU. (They don’t have the best reputation.) Since I have been at Ball State there have been three people who have done her job, but Shawna is by far the most sensitive and helpful. She goes above and beyond in every way to ensure our (the students’) success. I have learned that if you need something, Shawna is the one to ask.

Similarly, Jill gives as much of herself as anyone I have ever met. She exudes grace and mercy, while also maintaining an air of justice. Some of my favorite classes during my graduate program have been my creative nonfiction classes. I am not sure that my creative writing improved, though that is no fault of Jill’s; but, through thinking about memoir, I have grown in my academic writing. I am more aware of the way I weave words together, more cognizant of my audience, and more interested in choosing the exact phrases to communicate my ideas clearly. More importantly, Jill encourages her students to be engaged and gracious human beings. How? It’s a gift.

Finally, our graduate director is one of the most diplomatic and compassionate people I know. How she is so eloquently and gracefully the liaison between the students and the graduate school, I will never know. What I do know is that she excels at her job, and she does it with a smile. I think my appreciation for Debbie grew exponentially today when I was sharing with a friend about her positive and uplifting role in our graduate school careers. I was talking about how astounded I am at the fact that one person can embody such intense passion for her career, while also exhibiting such compassion for those of us seeking to pursue the same path.

I hope one day a student of mine can say that I influenced his or her life in the ways that mine has been influenced by these amazing women. In case it never feels like it, there are some of us who notice you going above and beyond to make BSU a better place to be. How is it that I always feel better about myself after I’ve been around you? Thanks.

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Since today was Veteran’s Day, I was thinking pretty extensively about my family members and friends who have been in the military. Although I disagree with most of what our government does, I do recognize that the men and women of the armed forces go to great lengths to ensure our American freedom, including my right to disagree with the government. I want peace, but I also honor the military personnel. So thanks.

  • Vernon Hash
  • James Roberson
  • Themie Pappas
  • George Pappas
  • Bill Pappas
  • Jim Pappas
  • Mike Pappas
  • Tony Shiner
  • Rick Hash
  • William Keck
  • Vaughn Hash
  • Bernard Hash
  • Dale Hash
  • Calvin Hackman
  • Jack Taly
  • Jack Harris
  • Ed Comber
  • Nathan Neely
  • Drew Hunter
  • Nathan Klink
  • Ty Shadle

If your name isn’t on this list, please forgive me, and know that I do appreciate your sacrifice. 3875416709_28f5eede84*

Exercise: Walked the dogs 1.4 miles, rode my bike from RB to Burris and back

Food: banana, Clif bar, apple, tea, Chinese, Superman ice cream with sprinkles, M&Ms

Dissertation. Re-Creation.

Tomorrow morning I have a meeting with Debbie about my dissertation. What I have right now are a bunch of ideas and no real cohesiveness to any of them. What I need by the beginning of next semester is a completed proposal. Sometimes I wish I could be a genie and simply wave my hand over my computer and produce not only a completed proposal, but also a completed dissertation. At least I love my topic, and I am not just writing about something to complete a class or to appease someone else. I really care about desires (hunger, spiritual, sexual) and how they play out in novels by African American women, particularly about how they play out within the confines of slavery. After tomorrow, I think my ideas will take on an even more settled, focused tenor. Hopefully, coming off of the conference and meeting to talk frankly and thoughtfully with my director will make my ideas gel in a way that enable me to get them down on paper and to do it quickly.

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I can never get over how simply being in someone else’s presence can alter the constitution of our souls. For good or for ill. It’s usually so much easier for me to be pulled down than it is for me to be lifted up. It’s a much more difficult job to lighten my mood, to strengthen my soul, but there are a few people in my life who are able to pick me up with relative ease. Without those friends in my life, it would be much more difficult. And, their visits always come when I most need them. I feel renewed, rejuvenated, and reinvigorated. I am humbled to be blessed with such friends, whose collective presence fills me up with grace and hope. Thanks.

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Exercise: walked 1 mile with dogs; ran two miles; rode to Tillotson SBUX and to RB

Food: banana, juice, grande caramel macchiato, Clif bar, apple, two slices of pizza, two breadsticks, salad with ranch dressing